You have taken on a new project at work which demands later hours and more focus. When you get home from work you are mentally drained and can only think about grabbing dinner and heading off to bed. A few weeks have passed and you've found yourself in a new routine. Constantly focusing on work and outside duties of your home, you have allowed yourself to become completely absent at home (not including the necessary duties such as taking care of the kids and putting food on the table). As a woman, no matter how exhausted we become, this is one thing we cannot allow to happen.  We have to put on our big girl panties and be superwoman day in a day out, and that includes keeping things interesting in the bedroom. Trust and believe I have tried to use that excuse, "I'm too tired, let's play tomorrow." Then tomorrow comes and now it's been over a week and my man is growing tiringly frustrated. You can no longer stall any more girlfriend. Whatever funk you have gotten yourself into, it has to stop now! 

First thing first, realize that every time you say yes to another assignment/task at work or volunteer to bake cookies to team bakeoff, etc, know that you are taking yourself away from precious time you could be spending at home with the kids or your significant other. Girlfriend, I have been there before and am not saying that it won't happen again but, the objective is to be consistent. Learn the balance of give and take. Key lesson here is to evaluate what you are willing to give up in order to take on something new (or additional). 

The objective in most relationships (outside of spiritually connecting and having like-minded goals) is to keep falling for the same person over and over again. As I have alluded to in my first post, we have to step outside of our comfort zones and tap into those three main characteristics that make us feel sexiest. However, after you have gotten your mental mindstate together, worked on getting dolled up for yourself, and put the wheels in motion by physically showing your seductive moves, is it enough to keep your man satisfied? To be quite frank, "a happy wife, makes a happy life." When you are doing something in your life that holds value to you, then you are already on the right track! Imagine if we only focused on the exact things that make our spouses or significant others happy. We would be drained energetically on trying to accomplish those desires daily. Let's be real for a moment. My husband enjoys when he comes home to a clean house, dinner prepared and on the table after a long day of work, and when I take the initiative to jumpstart some fun in the bedroom. Do I do this everyday? Absolutely not, I'm human just like you. Working a full-time job, personally commuting a minimum of two hours a day, and dealing with everyday stressors that can weigh heavily on anyone's mind. But don't get me wrong, I do try my best to fulfill these duties daily as a wife. By taking time out of our busy schedules and daily duties to do something that takes us away for even just an hour, can make us happy. When we are happy, then it trickles into the other aspects of our lives. 

Before we can ever think about learning sexy routines and performing for our significant others, the first thought that usually comes to mind is, "I should get sexy and try something different."  What I have found out through experience is that if we stay ready, we don't have to get ready. That sounds like such a cliche however, it's true! Years ago when I was still just dating my now husband, I became comfortable in my relationship. Comfortable as in mostly wearing big t-shirts and lounge pants when I would go over to visit. I wouldn't do my face or much to my hair. I was truly comfortable in my relationship and was thinking to myself, "I have a man now, we have been together over a year why do I have to do anything extra." Well my mother sat me down one day and said that if I got too comfortable, someone else could easily come along take my place. It was a big wake up call. I could sense that my boyfriend at the time was not liking my nonchalant ways either. So from that moment on, I have taken the extra initiative to always put myself first and I get dolled up just for myself. Even if I am not going anywhere other than the gas station, best believe I have my hair done, and at least some brows and lip gloss if nothing else. I strongly believe that someone is always watching your every move, so why give them the satisfaction that you are not on your game.

You are probably reading this and wondering where exactly I am going with this post. I wholeheartedly believe that feeling and looking sexy has three main components.
1. Mental
2. Appearance
​3. Physical Execution