Becoming a Belle Rouge Vixen...
Before we can ever think about learning sexy routines and performing for our significant others, the first thought that usually comes to mind is, "I should get sexy and try something different." What I have found out through experience is that if we stay ready, we don't have to get ready. That sounds like such a cliche however, it's true! Years ago when I was still just dating my now husband, I became comfortable in my relationship. Comfortable as in mostly wearing big t-shirts and lounge pants when I would go over to visit. I wouldn't do my face or much to my hair. I was truly comfortable in my relationship and was thinking to myself, "I have a man now, we have been together over a year why do I have to do anything extra." Well my mother sat me down one day and said that if I got too comfortable, someone else could easily come along take my place. It was a big wake up call. I could sense that my boyfriend at the time was not liking my nonchalant ways either. So from that moment on, I have taken the extra initiative to always put myself first and I get dolled up just for myself. Even if I am not going anywhere other than the gas station, best believe I have my hair done, and at least some brows and lip gloss if nothing else. I strongly believe that someone is always watching your every move, so why give them the satisfaction that you are not on your game.
You are probably reading this and wondering where exactly I am going with this post. I wholeheartedly believe that feeling and looking sexy has three main components.
3. Physical Execution
In order to be sexy, one has to believe that they are. That means we have to tell ourselves, "No matter who else is in the room, I am still sexy in my own right." This first step is also known as Self-Confidence. To look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful and deserve to be treated as such is a major step in becoming a Belle Rouge Vixen. Many times we allow ourselves to become submerged under the duties we have in life. Whether that be being a wife, mother, daughter, employee or caretaker, the objective is to put yourself first. If you don't believe this about yourself, then how do you expect others to believe it. Not to be confused with cockiness, having self-confidence is a mental awareness of our sexiness.
Okay, we all know that our appearance plays a major role in how sexy we feel. Nine times out of ten, the way we dress brings out a certain attitude. For example, going to work in slacks and a ponytail, we are feeling just okay and "I'm here because I have to be." Now when we go the extra mile and put on a nice form fitting dress, heels, hair whipping, lipstick and a beat face, we tend to walk around the office like "I'm the ish, and I know it. Thanks for noticing!" We don't even need anyone else to validate that we are sexy because we already know that we put in the extra work to achieve this goal! I dress up almost every single day for work at my daytime job. Some people look at me crazy at work like, "how long does it take you to get ready in the morning? Do you really do your hair every day? Are you going somewhere after you leave work?" These are common responses I get but they don't phase me one bit. These are compliments to my daily efforts to wanting to look good for myself. Going back to the introduction, "if you stay ready, you won't have to get ready."
We have nailed down the first two important aspects to becoming a Belle Rouge Vixen beginning with the mental mindstate and physical appearance. Now when it comes to dancing and seducing my husband, I am dressed the part and mentally I feel like Beyoncé as she prepares to enter on stage. It's time to execute and take the stage Vixens! At this point, we need something in our back pockets to whip out and perform. By attending my classes and having private sessions with Belle (me) you can learn so many moves to keep on deck when your man randomly asks you to "put on a show!" I strive to teach sensual and seductive moves that anyone can perform. Moves that are classy and mimic the vintage style of burlesque including but not limited to elongated arms, hair flips, and the art of body language.
Now that you have learned the three major steps to becoming a Belle Rouge Vixen, begin your journey with me and the other Belle Rouge Vixens! I have a judgment free program that can teach any woman how tap into their Vixen deep inside. So grab your dancing heels, a sexy outfit, get your hair whipping and join the #BelleRougeVixens now!
-Miss Belle Rouge
12/14/2015 10:29:38 am
Go head! Proud of you! I like the the idea of staying ready at all times.
12/14/2015 10:33:08 am
Thanks Love! It's such a true statement.
12/14/2015 11:33:32 am
I love this!!!! I love what you're doing! I needed to read this blog! Keep up the great work!
12/14/2015 11:40:17 am
Thanks so much for the feedback! I'm happy you enjoyed!
12/14/2015 12:27:50 pm
Congrats Hunni can't wait to see what you have in stored for 2016
12/14/2015 05:45:00 pm
Thanks so much hun!
12/14/2015 04:46:57 pm
I love this, I think its so important for women to understand the true essence of owning who you are and always putting yourself first. As a single mother, I tend to take on the caretaker role with everyone I come in contact with and I am starting to become a little more selfish and put my needs first. Something as simple as wearing my favorite perfume, putting on a pair of heels for work and strutting around definitely makes me feel like I am the sexiest thing walking.
12/14/2015 05:46:50 pm
You're so right Samira! It all starts with our mindstate and from there everything else just seems a little easier. Thanks for sharing!
12/14/2015 10:23:37 pm
You are so right. It has taken me a long time to love who I see when I look in the mirror. Sexy was never a word I used to describe myself. I was very self conscious and felt awkward and unattractive. I thought that losing weight would be the answer, it wasn't. I still felt awkward and unattractive and was even more self conscious. It wasn't until I realized that I needed to change my perception of myself, that things began to change. Being comfortable in my own skin, makes me sexy. Stepping outside of my comfort zone, makes me sexy. Believing I can do whatever I put my mind to, makes me sexy. Now I need to get these moves down so I can get my husband, lol. I love what you are doing to help women in all aspects of feeling sexy. And I love the classy and sassy way you are going about it 💋.
12/14/2015 10:36:46 pm
This is exactly why I do what I do. I love helping women to see that it does not matter how good people may say you look, if you don't feel it deep down then you won't be. It's that simple. It all starts with our we feels about ourselves! I love you LadeeKay and thank you for sharing your story. :)
12/16/2015 08:50:08 pm
Girl!!! I'm actually in bed with my pjs on (and they're sexy, thank God lol), but this post has got me wanting to get up, throw on some lipstick and mascara, put my heels on, and get to work on fulfilling all my roles as a student, teacher, girlfriend, mother, sister, and so on. But, I gotta wait until 5am tomorrow to do that. But, hey, at least you've helped me realize the importance of feeling sexy even when I'm going to bed. Every Vixen needs her beauty sleep in order to fulfill her sexiest potential. Thank you for being you! Thank you for reminding us how powerful women can be. Thank you for helping me think about the different ways of being sexy. I'm so excited about being a Belle Rouge Vixen!
12/16/2015 08:55:41 pm
I meant "daughter," not "mother!" Lol. Gonna be a couple years before I add that role to my list. :) until then, I'm enjoying watching all the mothers do their thing and being sexy at it! Y'all rock.
12/17/2015 01:21:52 am
Congratulations dear on your new venture dear. I'm so happy for you and so inspired by your vision. Now if only you cold bring it to Louisiana...we desperately need it!
12/30/2015 11:35:40 pm
Kudos to you Hun!!! You know how proud I am of you for putting all this into action and more importantly, for practicing what you preach. Keep on envisioning, inspiring, advising, teaching, and dancing! (And having mid day chats with me) you're reaching more ladies than you think.
12/31/2015 11:10:34 am
Thank you so much Nat for the encouraging words and I'm glad you stopped by to leave awesome feedback. Love you dear!
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RaQuita Weathers, also known as Miss Belle Rouge, is a working wife that has dedicated her life to helping women reach their sexiest potential.