The greatest gift is being able to put a smile on another person's face. This past weekend, I had the pleasure of working with some amazing women for my latest Belle Rouge Company project. My brand's mission is bring the total glamorous (Vixen) experience to all women through beauty and seductive dance. All women deserve to feel sexy and look their best and that is why I have made it my purpose in life to bring that joy to women all over. Today's post is about tapping into the beautiful and seductive woman inside and bringing her to life.
The ladies in the behind the scenes picture above come from several different walks of life. Some are mothers, wives, students, and business owners, but ALL are extremely sexy! My goal for this project was to take everyday women and show them that we can all be beautiful and fierce models. I had the distinct pleasure of hand selecting each beautiful model and corset, as well as doing some of the models' hair and makeup. While in the midst of styling one of the ladies, she shed tears of joy. I was taken aback for a moment because I couldn't understand why she was crying. My first thought, was wait, you're messing up your makeup! Just knowing that someone cares and shows you that you are beautiful, can make the strongest of us feel sexy and moved. The feedback from these women have made this entire experience more worthwhile. So while you're thinking you may not have what it takes to be a model or look like one, think again. It only takes effort and confidence to be anything you want to be.
My photoshoot was not about me, it was about all of the women involved! Here are two before and after pictures of models dolled up by me with hair and makeup by Styles By Belle.
In addition to the Belle Rouge photoshoot, I had the honor of teaching some sexy ladies in Delaware for my "Rock Your Stilettos" event in collaboration with Danceworks Dance Studio on Friday. Majority of the ladies in attendance were all first timers and all left feeling wonderful! We performed a seductive dance to "Dance For You" by Beyonce. As I told my students during your class, the objective is to practice performing in heels and tap into your sexiness. When the heels come off, so does your balance. With practice and consistency, dancing in heels becomes a breeze!
This Saturday, I'm bringing the sexiness to Philadelphia for my #MoscatoAndHeels class. Ladies! I hope you're ready! Stay tuned for more fabulous happenings with The Belle Rouge Company.
-Miss Belle Rouge
As you all know by now, I like to leave you with a personal challenge. This week's challenge is to make someone else feel beautiful. Whether it's through giving a compliment or telling your friend (or a stranger) their hair looks nice today. A compliment goes a long way and could honestly turn someone's day around. Keep being boss women!
How To Perform Seductively
Over the weekend, I hosted a sexy burlesque party with some amazing ladies who were all first timers to dancing seductively in heels. Their one main question to me during the party was "How do you perform like that and look sexy at the same time?" This question goes so much further than my private event and will also help ladies coming to future events. So while we are on this journey of becoming Belle Rouge Vixens, I want to break down my top personal tips to being your own best performer! Keep reading to find out more.
Are you Empowered?
This past week has been an extremely productive and positive week for myself and for my business. From hosting my first model call to attending an unique vision board experience with my girlfriends, I can finally sit down and reflect. I have to be honest with you, lately my focus has been on reaching the goals I set for myself in 2015 while also creating balance at home. I found out this week just how others see my business and what they believe it stands for. I must say that I am proud and humble. There is so much more work to be done; however, just to know that you are empowering other women you have never met to make a change in their life and see other women who want to be apart of your vision, it is truly amazing!
Getting more into today's topic, I attended a vision board session yesterday which blew my mind. To be completely honest, I have been hesitant in the past to attend such an event because I have been nervous to share my dreams and goals with other people. I have this sense of protectiveness around my goals and vision for my business mainly because I have seen that not every person is genuinely excited to hear your plans or believe you are capable of achieving those goals. Am I wrong for being this way? Possibly, but when you have a business, you want to treat it like your baby and protect it from negative outside forces. Until you are ready to show, then do not tell. That's my new life motto.
The Unique Vision Board experience hosted by Davita Garfield & Joyce Robinson of "Dreams, Goals, Vision" catered to encouraging women to dig deep down inside themselves and figure out exactly who they are. After you have openly talked about how you have made it to where are today, you then categorized where you saw yourself in life currently. I am happy to say that I have a plan and I am working on it! I must say I was unaware of my own strength to maneuver through obstacles in my path and turn them into positives. Sometimes you need to hear from other women how your story motivates them to keep pushing forward. That lets me know that I am on the right path as well as to continue doing what I am doing. Many thanks and appreciation goes to my husband and close circle of girlfriends for pushing me to be my best and constantly being a positive support system. Overall, the vision board experience was amazing and I highly recommend other ladies to schedule their own private group session with these amazing women.
So today on the beautiful Monday, I want to challenge you to take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to reflect on where you are in life today and ask yourself, "is what I'm doing today, helping me to get to where I want to be tomorrow?" Think outside of just your career goals, but also focus on your personal goals. Are you still wearing sweats out of the house and putting everyone else's needs before your own? Have you started holding yourself accountable to dress up more? Are you taking the necessary steps to start a healthier lifestyle? Also, going back to a previous post, have you worked on finding balance between work, your personal life, and keeping your significant other satisfied? I'd love to hear from you and how your 2016 has started!
-Miss Belle Rouge
Side Note: For all of my readers, I am so grateful for your continued support! Yes, there will be more relationship based posts and dance related posts. Lately, I have been so inspired about women empowerment and growth. I am genuinely happy to see other women going after their goals and supporting other women. I believe there is enough space for us all in this world to be successful in life, especially in entrepreneurship. As you have heard before, "supporting another person's success won't ever dampen yours." Food for thought. Have a wonderful, productive week Belle Rouge Vixens!
I'm Selfish...So What?
Growing up, it was such a negative thing to be labeled as selfish. If someone accused me of being selfish, I would normally revert to my twin and say I had a reason to want something for myself. I grew up sharing EVERYTHING and helping everyone around me. To be selfless was such a prominent skill to learn at a young age. Now that I am an adult, I yearn to find moments here and there for "me" time. I'm sure many of you can relate from being employees, mothers, wives, daughters or being in a relationship period. My struggle for the past few years has been finding balance between the give and take within my relationships. Relationships as in with my husband, siblings, mom and friends. Everyone wants a piece of your time. So how do you manage?
You have taken on a new project at work which demands later hours and more focus. When you get home from work you are mentally drained and can only think about grabbing dinner and heading off to bed. A few weeks have passed and you've found yourself in a new routine. Constantly focusing on work and outside duties of your home, you have allowed yourself to become completely absent at home (not including the necessary duties such as taking care of the kids and putting food on the table). As a woman, no matter how exhausted we become, this is one thing we cannot allow to happen. We have to put on our big girl panties and be superwoman day in a day out, and that includes keeping things interesting in the bedroom. Trust and believe I have tried to use that excuse, "I'm too tired, let's play tomorrow." Then tomorrow comes and now it's been over a week and my man is growing tiringly frustrated. You can no longer stall any more girlfriend. Whatever funk you have gotten yourself into, it has to stop now!
First thing first, realize that every time you say yes to another assignment/task at work or volunteer to bake cookies to team bakeoff, etc, know that you are taking yourself away from precious time you could be spending at home with the kids or your significant other. Girlfriend, I have been there before and am not saying that it won't happen again but, the objective is to be consistent. Learn the balance of give and take. Key lesson here is to evaluate what you are willing to give up in order to take on something new (or additional).
Will Dancing Keep My Spouse Satisfied?
The objective in most relationships (outside of spiritually connecting and having like-minded goals) is to keep falling for the same person over and over again. As I have alluded to in my first post, we have to step outside of our comfort zones and tap into those three main characteristics that make us feel sexiest. However, after you have gotten your mental mindstate together, worked on getting dolled up for yourself, and put the wheels in motion by physically showing your seductive moves, is it enough to keep your man satisfied? To be quite frank, "a happy wife, makes a happy life." When you are doing something in your life that holds value to you, then you are already on the right track! Imagine if we only focused on the exact things that make our spouses or significant others happy. We would be drained energetically on trying to accomplish those desires daily. Let's be real for a moment. My husband enjoys when he comes home to a clean house, dinner prepared and on the table after a long day of work, and when I take the initiative to jumpstart some fun in the bedroom. Do I do this everyday? Absolutely not, I'm human just like you. Working a full-time job, personally commuting a minimum of two hours a day, and dealing with everyday stressors that can weigh heavily on anyone's mind. But don't get me wrong, I do try my best to fulfill these duties daily as a wife. By taking time out of our busy schedules and daily duties to do something that takes us away for even just an hour, can make us happy. When we are happy, then it trickles into the other aspects of our lives.
RaQuita Weathers, also known as Miss Belle Rouge, is a working wife that has dedicated her life to helping women reach their sexiest potential.