Consistency

You have taken on a new project at work which demands later hours and more focus. When you get home from work you are mentally drained and can only think about grabbing dinner and heading off to bed. A few weeks have passed and you've found yourself in a new routine. Constantly focusing on work and outside duties of your home, you have allowed yourself to become completely absent at home (not including the necessary duties such as taking care of the kids and putting food on the table). As a woman, no matter how exhausted we become, this is one thing we cannot allow to happen.  We have to put on our big girl panties and be superwoman day in a day out, and that includes keeping things interesting in the bedroom. Trust and believe I have tried to use that excuse, "I'm too tired, let's play tomorrow." Then tomorrow comes and now it's been over a week and my man is growing tiringly frustrated. You can no longer stall any more girlfriend. Whatever funk you have gotten yourself into, it has to stop now! 

First thing first, realize that every time you say yes to another assignment/task at work or volunteer to bake cookies to team bakeoff, etc, know that you are taking yourself away from precious time you could be spending at home with the kids or your significant other. Girlfriend, I have been there before and am not saying that it won't happen again but, the objective is to be consistent. Learn the balance of give and take. Key lesson here is to evaluate what you are willing to give up in order to take on something new (or additional). 

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Now that we have addressed an important concern of prioritizing, let's get down to the real talk. You have managed to get your workload and other duties under control and it's time to make up for all those nights of putting things off in the bedroom. First step is to take control! All that I have talked about up until this point (from previous blog posts) has prepared us to get ourselves in order first. That is the only way we can be our best selves for those around us. This starts with getting your sexy on (mentally and physically) and finally the execution. Get your hair done, polish your nails, put on some sexy lingerie, and pour up some wine. You deserve to feel your sexiest for yourself and for your spouse. Do not shy away from putting on your thigh highs and heels either!

Finally, put on a show. Whether you have a taken a sensual heels class before or want to take one in the future, you can easily try something slow and sensual to set the mood. Your spouse wants to see you comfortable in your own skin. Not trying to be someone else or even trying too hard for that matter. You do not know how many times I have heard gentlemen say "Well my girl is very attractive and has a nice body, but she is very insecure with herself." Let whatever is holding you back go now! You have to be in control of your comfort with your body, with the person you see in the mirror and that goes with your satisfaction in the bedroom too. Timidness gets you nowhere but being controlled by others. The quicker you learn this, the easier it is to own your sexiness. Whether you do this daily, weekly or monthly, you have to remember to be consistent. You DO NOT want to become that boring spouse/girlfriend. Remind your man why he fell for you in the first place, better yet give him more reasons to want you more! 

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For our first wedding anniversary, I surprised my husband with an out of the box experience. The morning of our anniversary we drove down to Maryland for an outdoor boudoir photography session at an abandoned golf course. It was very intimate and a new bonding experience. I believe our annual anniversary tradition will be to have a different themed photo shoot in a new place each year! Remember to think outside the box and do what makes you happy!

I want to hear from you! Have you ever felt like work, school, or some other duties were taking you away from being available for your significant other? Also, if you are bold and in the sharing mood, describe an interesting way you have surprised your boo! 

-Miss Belle Rouge