Will Dancing Keep My Spouse Satisfied?

The objective in most relationships (outside of spiritually connecting and having like-minded goals) is to keep falling for the same person over and over again. As I have alluded to in my first post, we have to step outside of our comfort zones and tap into those three main characteristics that make us feel sexiest. However, after you have gotten your mental mindstate together, worked on getting dolled up for yourself, and put the wheels in motion by physically showing your seductive moves, is it enough to keep your man satisfied? To be quite frank, "a happy wife, makes a happy life." When you are doing something in your life that holds value to you, then you are already on the right track! Imagine if we only focused on the exact things that make our spouses or significant others happy. We would be drained energetically on trying to accomplish those desires daily. Let's be real for a moment. My husband enjoys when he comes home to a clean house, dinner prepared and on the table after a long day of work, and when I take the initiative to jumpstart some fun in the bedroom. Do I do this everyday? Absolutely not, I'm human just like you. Working a full-time job, personally commuting a minimum of two hours a day, and dealing with everyday stressors that can weigh heavily on anyone's mind. But don't get me wrong, I do try my best to fulfill these duties daily as a wife. By taking time out of our busy schedules and daily duties to do something that takes us away for even just an hour, can make us happy. When we are happy, then it trickles into the other aspects of our lives. 

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So when I am asked by women, "How does your husband feel about you dancing?" or "How does dancing affect your marriage?" To be honest, my husband is all for seeing me happy. If it is dancing and helping other women feel sexy about themselves that makes me happy, then voila, "Happy wife, happy life!" It also helps that I have made some wonderful friendships along the way in this journey. As much as my husband and I love each other, you have to have friendships outside of your relationship in order to have a healthy marriage. To be wrapped up in each other's presence all day everyday can become a routine that will yearn for change.  

Before I started taking dance classes in Philadelphia, I would sit in the house and watch tv or do little annoying things to my husband, because I didn't know anyone else here in a new city or just wanted to be a homebody. My husband would be with his classmates at the gym after school and I would be home waiting for him to arrive. Now, I have something that makes me feel completely invigorated and while also making me feel my sexiest. Not only does this benefit me, it benefits my husband as well. Do I dance for my spouse often? No, however I dance for myself at least weekly. Just to put on a show in the mirror to remind myself "I still got it" is all I need to walk into a room and whisper sweet nothings to my man. ​

Ladies, do not get trapped in daily routines. You have to find something that will fill you with enjoyment outside your 9-5 and outside of your relationship. ​So to answer my original question, "Will dancing keep my husband satisfied?" In my house, YES! If this is what I enjoy and it makes me happy, then by all means I can be a woman with purpose that helps other ladies while also being his private dancer at home. Every man wants his lady to feel sexy about themselves and confident. Keep this in mind as you go into 2016. Let go of all the inhibitions that were holding you back in 2015 that kept you from trying something new. Whether it is dancing or picking up a book, make yourself a priority today.

-Miss Belle Rouge 


Side Note: I've included a very sexy song we'll be dancing to in 2016! Ladies, if you're bold (which I know you are) try dancing to this song for your boo on a random night! It brings out such a sexy/vintage essence to me which will definitely bring out your emotions. Try some role play as you perform! ;) Let me know how it goes!

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